Is This Subtle Limit Holding You Back?
I've been thinking about the topic of the upcoming Clarity Retreat of Busting Limits and where this applies to you and to this moment in time.
And I've been noticing how common it is for people to have a sense that there's something wrong with them or that they aren't enough.
And it made me wonder if one really common, subtle limit that folks are bumping up against is how human they're allowing themselves to be.
For your reference, it is human to be imperfect, to make mistakes, to have lapses in judgement, to forget where you left something, and to try to carry too many things all at once and wind up dropping them all.
It is human to have relational trauma, where boundaries were drawn poorly, where harm to your body, mind, heart, or spirit was done, or where power was abused. We all carry times where the care we needed to thrive was absent. We all deal with the impacts of those losses. And we all have things to heal from.
It is human to not know how to do everything, to be dealing with something challenging that is beyond your skill level, and to need help. It's ok to bring in support to help us through tough times. It's ok to not be amazing at everything. It's normal to be growing.
It is human to cry when you've been hurt or have lost something. It is human to be upset when a line has been crossed. Or to feel low sometimes. It's human to be scared when you sense a threat and to feel anxious in the face uncertainty. It's human to crank up a favorite song and let loose. Or to be moved to tears by something you love.
It's human to have things you like and dislike. It's human to have a unique way of being in the world that doesn't thrive in all circumstances. It's human to need some accommodations for what helps you work best.
It's human to have to change your mind. To be so sure that the world is one way and then to learn from experience that reality is different. It's human to be humbled on the regular.
It's human to have different seasons of life with different feelings, priorities, activities, and people. It's normal to not be crushing it day in and day out every day of your entire life. It's normal to have some seasons where we drop many balls, where the best we can do is to just make it through. It's human to have both wins and losses.
It's human to want reliable, kind connections with other people. To want to be seen and understood and valued. It's human to simultaneously screw up these connections. It's human to feel left out sometimes.
It's human to get tired. To need sleep in the midst of a world demanding our attention. It's human to run out of steam. It's human to get injured and sick.
It's human to have different parts of ourselves with different opinions about how to proceed. Like the part that is sure watching that next episode is the next right thing and the part that is suspicious about how the next day will go from staying up late.
It's human to flub it all up a bit when we encounter something new for the first time. And then to do just a little bit better when we meet that new thing a second time.
If you've experienced any of the above and thought, 'well, clearly there is something wrong with me' or 'no one else is struggling with this' or 'I'm sure they have it all together.'
Or if you've been repeatedly surprised and disappointed at your lack of total perfection.
Or if you've felt like you shouldn't cry or get upset or make mistakes or have a rough patch or spend a day frivolously ignoring every productive possibility.
Or whatever else you've been judging.
Here's a reality check.
Maybe you're just a human humaning along in a very normal, imperfectly human way. Maybe you're normal and just working within the natural limits and rhythms of our species. And maybe all of that is okay.
On October 17th I'm hosting a daylong Clarity Retreat on busting limits. There will be room to talk about mindsets and goals and expanding our comfort zones.
And we'll also make space for more of your humanness to be allowed into the room.
Because I think one limit many of us are bumping up against in modern culture is how human we're allowed to be.
We weren't designed to be productive 24/7 or to push down the fullness of our emotional experience or do everything ourselves or to receive so much attention getting input that we lose track of reality and what's actually important.
What if you compassionately accepted more of your humanity? Made more room for the truth of what you're needing right now? Gave yourself grace for that completely understandable mistake that's been bugging you? You might feel lighter and more peaceful and kinder. More of that is a limit I can get behind busting.
Here's the Clarity Retreat sign-up page. The 10% early bird discount is running through Sept 28th. This is a great opportunity to take some time out of your day-to-day life, connect, and explore what's possible for you, your life, and your humanity in supportive company and a playful environment. Would love to see you there!