My Number One Health Hack From 15 Years of Coaching
Self help has been in my life since I was a kid who skipped swim practice to tune into Oprah at 4 pm ET. I just loved the idea of improving my life.
For many years my focus on improvements dealt with my individual actions.
I'd look at my food or my movement or my thoughts or my schedule. I'd try to optimize everything and get it all right all the time.
When I took this approach I often felt agitated, perfectionistic, and frequently unsuccessful.
While there's definitely a place for improving our individual behaviors, most of what I consumed around health and well-being came through our individualistic cultural lens and didn't address social connection. At all.
In the midst of my love of self help, I had a big deficit around social help.
After leading coaching groups and participating in many other groups and communities over the years, I've learned that social connection is a huge and underestimated factor in well-being.
My take is that we're all human and therefore vulnerable and fallible. We're going to have ups and downs in life. Being in supportive environments with good people makes the good times more fun and the bad times easier to handle.
I see such value in groups like this that I'm currently in like ten of them.
When I focus on incorporating healthy groups into my life I feel calmer, happier, and more connected.
Sharing with others naturally shifts my perspective out of my narrow worldview, and I'm often either moved, laughing, inspired, or learning. Just by participating I'm more connected to my humanity.
I'm currently in one group that has met for two hours most every week for the past two and a half years. We haven't really had a goal or directly worked on anything. We've just shared with one another and supported each other with whatever we're going through.
Every single one of us has grown tremendously and has more capacity to do things in life because of the support of the group.
I got through a divorce and a dating learning curve hella fast. Others made tremendous progress on an eating disorder, setting boundaries, building businesses, creative projects, family dynamics, parenting, and much more.
Beyond our physical needs, what we all really must have to both survive and thrive in life is a consistent, safe psychological space where:
you can tell your truth at your own pace
all of you is welcome
the full range of your experience is allowed
all emotions are welcome
you will be held with kindness and compassion
you will be encouraged
you will be reminded of your awesomeness
Put yourself in an environment like this with other improving people and you will achieve more, be happier, heal, and grow without even trying.
This is my number one health hack from fifteen years of working in coaching.
People don't advance alone or through willpower.
People advance in groups.
This year I'm taking everything I've learned from a decade of facilitating and participating in supportive groups to create a beautiful, simple, safe container that will help you with living a better life at a foundational level.
Whether you're changing your career, building a business, navigating your relationships, dealing with health issues, tackling a challenging season of life, parenting, or working on creating anything else you're wanting in life, these groups are for you.
Introducing Clarity Circles!
Clarity Circles are year long, facilitated, small groups.
Participating will change your life.
And you don't have to do anything other than show up to feel better, accomplish your goals more quickly, and have much more fun than you would on your own.
I am literally over here grinning at the big impact being in a Clarity Circle will have in such an easy, lightweight way.
Fifteen years of working in personal development tell me that safe sharing spaces Are Where It's At to create a baseline shift in people's lived experiences. Also leading groups is a favorite thing for me, and I'm really good at it. :)
Let’s do life together! Can’t wait to see what you discover through the adventure and fun of this small group connection!