Win or Learn! Feeling Good After a Breakup

Welp, things wrapped up with the boyfriend I mentioned in a recent post.

In life I take the attitude of win or learn, and in this circumstance I learned a ton! In my experience any time you play full out, you're going to make a bunch of mistakes and gain a bunch of valuable lessons. I took a big swing, and (after grieving and processing) I'm happily sitting quite a bit wiser now as a result.

I've been reflecting that I am fascinated by how good things can get in life. I love exploring the boundaries of our human experience. Being human is hard, there are things that suck along the way that are out of our control, and there's really no surefire guarantee in life.

And, still, there are some pretty cool things that we can find if we're willing to look around, change our minds, and be open to abundance.

That's why dating has been so fascinating to me, and I keep writing to you about it - even though many of you are probably not dating right now.

Dating is hella annoying and many people are not great, but modern dating does really allow for the potential of iterative learning in a way that was less possible in the past. My sense is that those iterations can lead to finding and creating something quite cool.

What's striking me most right now is that there's this whole slew of mindsets and behaviors that are needed to both be a great partner and to find a healthy partner and relationship. So while there is an ideal outcome to dating, the process of dating actually carries a shit ton of rewards, particularly when it is approached with a growth mindset. It feels to me like there's a whole psychological structure that can get built through the process of dating.

I felt this way as I was initially learning to run a business too. Entrepreneurship is such an incredible vehicle for personal development because you hit all your limits and learned behaviors that have to change in order to create something that works. Dating has felt like a similar learning curve.

I'm on way out to a five day silent meditation retreat (ha! right at a time when I have a lot to talk about!), but I am brimming with lessons learned and things that I want to share. It's not exactly that I want to be a dating coach, though I can definitely help you with that now.

It's that with Clarity Catalyst Coach I want to help you find all the coolest things in life. A healthy, supportive relationship is one of those things. As is a career that feels like it is your life's work. As is a lifestyle that brings out the very best in you.

I'm eager to share what I've learned from my year-long deep dive into dating. And I'm excited to continue to do the delightful work of helping us all create better, more meaningful, more compassionate, more connected lives that are a joy to live.